No, Thank You!


This past weekend my amazing mother-in-law (MIL) came to help out as the Hubs recovered from his surgery. My MIL spoils my kids rotten- a tradition they all love!  And let’s face it, my kids don’t go without thanks to the Hubs and I either. We do make Scorch earn enough stickers doing various things throughout the house to get something extra special. But this summer was filled with a million big and little trips- each one requiring a souvenir according to the Hubs.

Unfortunately all this spoiling and the gluttony of things have turned Scorch into a child who only wants more. Yesterday at dinner I asked him what his favorite part about the day was. He said he didn’t have a favorite part because we refused to buy him the football he wanted.  Mind you- over the course of the weekend, he got 4 new pairs of shoes (including much coveted cleats), a new baseball glove, was taken to a Bounce House and countless parks and out to dinner each night.  So…yeah. Spoiled much?

I don’t mind getting these things because the Hubs and I usually only stick to the necessities and the fun stuff is only bought once Scorch has earned them or for holidays.  But what I do mind is his complete lack of gratitude.  And I don’t know how to teach him that at this age. Reasoning with him doesn’t work because he’s 4 and doesn’t get a lot of the abstract “there are starving kids in XYZ country- don’t you know how lucky you are?” conversation.  Do I take him to volunteer? Do I just keep talking to him and pray that this will finally click?

I’m at a loss! How did you teach your kids to be grateful?


About Heather

I adore my family, writing, books, cats, lazy mornings in bed, and chocolate. I'll never say no to breakfast for dinner, long talks with friends and lazy summer days at the pool with family. My life is often crazy, always awesome and one I'm so happy to be living! My side hustle is editing and proofing work. Find out more at

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