Before I had kids, I knew exactly how I was going to raise them. When they asked me hard questions about death, drugs or sex, I wasn’t going to duck, I was going to answer my kids truthfully and directly. All my kids confusion would be cleared up and I’d stay in the running for Mother of the Year.
Yeah- then the first hard question was thrown at me when Scorch was 3 and I realized that at heart, I’m a coward. When it comes to the hard questions I either deflect with at “What do you think?” or I give my kids so much info that their little heads explode. I don’t seem to have an in-between.
I’m starting to panic a little because I know one of the biggest questions of all- Where Do Babies Come From?– is looming on the horizon. It seems like we’re inundated with babies and pregnancies around us lately- Baby Lala, my best friends baby, and now the kid’s awesome nanny, Mary, is pregnant. My kids have already told me point blank that I need to have another baby and asked when can they get another brother or sister, so I know the question is coming.
Somebody please help me! How should I handle this question with a 5 year old (and a 3 year old, if the Bean decides to listen in)? Do I keep it vague with the old standby a “When a man and a woman love each other, then give each other a special hug…” spiel? Should I get a book to read to him? Should a 5 year old be told what sex is? I shouldn’t think so, but lord knows kids now know a heck of a lot more then I did. So please- I beg of you. Tell me how you handled this question with your kids. Share with me your book recommendations. Please- help the Hubs & me not screw this up and scar our kids for life!