In a Word: Hot


When I take my kids to the park, I’m that mom.  The one who has no problem telling the teenagers to watch their mouths or asking the little kids to stop throwing rocks.  I try not to be a pain and I don’t insert myself if there is a parent dealing with their kid, but if your kid can harm my kids or teach them words they shouldn’t know, you can bet I’ll say something.  But today something happened at the park and I didn’t have a clue how to respond.

As Scorch was waiting for his turn on the monkey bars, a little girl around 10 years old came up to him and told him he was hot.

Are. You. Kidding. Me?

My jaw dropped and I had absolutely no clue how to respond.  Scorch  knows that “hot” is a not so nice way of telling someone they are pretty/handsome. He knows it’s slang and that it’s considered rude for kids to use.   I realize that not everyone subscribes to our thought process about that word, but that is the line in the sand we drew because in my opinion, hearing a kid younger then 16 say that word about someone else is just plain creepy.  Any how, Scorch asked her to repeat herself because he wasn’t paying attention. When he heard what he said, he just giggled a little, said “Oh” and proceeded to start on the monkey bars.

I had no idea if I should talk to this child (her parents were no where around). If I did talk to her, what do I say? Do I draw attention to this or will drawing attention make it a bigger deal then it was?  Do I call Scorch over to me and talk to him? Do we leave? Do I ignore it? I really had no idea.

I ended up calling Scorch over- but before I could, this same girl told Scorch her friend (also 10+) liked him and did he think the friend was pretty? By this time I’m steaming, so when Scorch came over I asked him if he was OK and if the girls were bothering him.  Then I proceeded to stick close by him the rest of the time we were there so the girls couldn’t say anything more to him.  Thankfully they minded their manners while I was there and nothing more was said- until it was time to leave. When Scorch yelled goodbye, the girl yelled- “Goodbye, lover.”

Lover?! LOVER?!?! (can you hear the screech in my voice?!?!?!??!)  Thankfully Scorch didn’t hear her, but again I was shocked. Scorch is 6 years old- 6! I’m not naive enough to think that he’ll never have to deal with the opposite sex- I read the news and the studies and I know that kids these days are growing up a lot faster. But 6 years old? I think not.

So tell me, what would you  have done? Would you have spoken up? Avoided it all together? Have a follow up discussion with your kids later? I’m totally at a loss here.



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I adore my family, writing, books, cats, lazy mornings in bed, and chocolate. I'll never say no to breakfast for dinner, long talks with friends and lazy summer days at the pool with family. My life is often crazy, always awesome and one I'm so happy to be living! My side hustle is editing and proofing work. Find out more at

4 responses »

  1. That is crazy! My son is almost 6. I think I would have told the girls, “He’s 6. Leave him alone” and if they didn’t, I probably would have left. What’s wrong with people?

  2. Wow, this is so disturbing! If I had to guess, I’d say the girls were testing out this behavior on someone they saw as non-threatening…still, SO inappropriate. I think if it were me, I’d casually ask Scorch what he thought about the park and if he brought it up, answer questions/offer information as needed. Chances are (being a boy and all, heh), it went in one ear and out the other.

    This right here is why I will always insist on having passwords and will check emails/phones/social media with my kids. I want to know what they’re experimenting with in all senses. Oh, and I definitely keep an eye on what’s going on on the playground too, and I don’t mind speaking up if there’s something affecting my kids. Too many parents tune out to their kids’ behavior.

    (seriously, 10-year-old cougars???)

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