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The Beach Life is the Best Life

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I love the beach.

And luckily I have a mother in law who loves the beach as much as I do- a very generous mother in law who takes us on vacation once a year as her Christmas gift to us. Best. Gift. Ever.  In years past, we’ve hit Sea Isle City, NJ, Brigantine, NJ, Kill Devil Hills, NC and Myrtle Beach. This year we went to Ocean City, NJ and it was awesome.  I was little worried driving in because that place is jam packed with homes- so many homes in the area we stayed at that there wasn’t room for anything else, including lawns (no joke).  Last year in Myrtle Beach it was so crowded that it made getting space on the beach a competition- and if you left your spot for longer then 30 minutes, people would move your chairs and blankets so they could move in. I wasn’t a huge fan and was worried we were doomed to repeat that.

Hahahahaha. Yeah- I had nothing to worry about. We managed just fine!

On vacation with us was my brother in law and his two boys- 8 and 6. Unfortunately my kids only get to see their cousins a few times a year since we live so far away from each other, so I always worry a bit about how everyone is going to get along. I should know better by now- every time they see each other it’s like they just hung out last week. Yes- they do have on matching rash guards. It made them much easier to keep track of!

The kids are at that perfect age where they are ton of fun at the beach- the waves! sand! digging! clams & fish! wiffle ball!- and they can basically entertain themselves 85% of the time. We obviously had to keep an eye on them and at least one (usually two) of us were in the water with them at all times (those waves were fierce!), but we all got to rest and relax.  The kids spent hours during the week digging up these critters. We called them crabs- I have no idea what they really were but they freaked me out. Thankfully the Bean didn’t share my aversion.

Our days consisted of getting up, having breakfast, being at the beach by 10:30, playing until 1, going back for lunch and some quiet time and heading out back to the beach until dinner time.  We did hit the boardwalk a few times- something the kids loved!  While it drained our wallets dry, it was a blast to ride the rides and munch on cotton candy and ice cream. Outside of the night we couldn’t find a trolley to take us home and ended up walking 20 blocks with 4 kids at 10 pm (I felt like little orphan Annie!), the boardwalk was a perfect slice of pure American cheese and tackiness!

So, there you have it- my excuse from being absent for so long.  Forgive me, please?

Brain Dump

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I really hate those nights when I sit here and just stare at my blank screen, wondering what to write about. I know I had a million ideas pop into my head during the day today but by 8 pm, they are gone. So tonight, I’m taking the easy way out and scatter shooting my thoughts. Here I go…

Scorch’s has his very first loose tooth! The boy swears and declares he’s the last one in his class to have one and he can’t wait for it to fall out. I think he thought that we’d find a loose tooth one day and it would fall out the next. He wiggles it all the damn day trying so hard to hurry the process along. I try not to gag when he does.

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We’re almost two full weeks into Little League and it’s awesome. I had a lot of worries about this. While this league doesn’t follow strict baseball rules, it’s closer then Scorch has ever played before with outs and actual plays and a 3 strikes rule.  So far he, and the rest of his team of 6- 8 year olds, have handled the transition from t-ball beautifully! The games are fun, the parents are all supportive and the kids are having a blast. We were all actually disappointed when his game was rained out tonight.

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I started meeting a friend at 5 am to run. It only gets me up 15 minutes earlier then normal, but I’m exhausted. The good news is that knowing a coyote is in the area is damn good incentive to pick up my pace.

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I was just thinking the other day how nice it is that the Bean is watching such gentle shows like Blues Clues and Wonder Pets. Annoying, but sweet shows where there are no bad guys or fighting.  Then she discovered Power Rangers thanks to Daddy and now that’s all she wants to watch.  I don’t get it.

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We decided to do a Big Party for Scorch’s birthday.  I think there are something like 29 kids invited.  To keep it as stress free as possible, I’m doing everything at a play place for kids- so all I have to bring is the cake and decorations.  I also solved my gift / goodie bag worries by requesting in the invites that everyone bring a wrapped book suitable for kids ages 5 – 8 so we can do a book exchange. Every kid will go home with a new book, including the birthday boy, instead of a goodie bag.  Win/win (I hope).

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The Hub’s grandfather’s health is very quickly declining.  He’s a wonderful, sweet, smart, funny, vibrant man who’s slowly been stripped of his health for the past 4 years and it’s been the saddest thing to see.  His health and the health of those taking care of him, including his wife and daughters (including my mother-in-law) weigh on the Hubs and I a lot.   I’m open to any suggestion you all my have on discussing death with kids.

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We met with a financial adviser today for the first time! Over all it was a great experience until he told us we’d need to save almost $667,000 over the next 11 years to finance 4 years of a state college for both kids.  I sure hope they like Boot Camp when the time comes to ship them off!

And that’s what’s on my brain. Perhaps I’ll be more coherent tomorrow….

Short Term Quiet

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Yesterday, my house was quiet and still for the first time in a long time.

No running feet, no yelling, no begging for a treat in the middle of the day, no bed time battles or reminders to brush your teeth/wash your hands/flush the stinking toilet! Just silence.

It’s spring break at my kid’s school so my parent kindly offered to keep the kids over night Sunday & Monday so the Hubs and I could work guilt free these past two days. The Hubs and I savored every single minute. We slept in late(r), we went out for shopping, dinner and a movie last night, we didn’t go to bed until almost 1 am and the only thing that woke us this morning was the alarm clock- not a little face standing two inches from me screaming “MOMMY!” because evidently my kids think I’m deaf. We ate dinner at a place my kids hate and I didn’t have to mop up sticky syrup from the kitchen table this morning or listen to the theme song from Blue Clues 13 times in a row.  It’s a luxury to be able to relish the quiet knowing that my kids are in great hands- hands that I sometimes think parent better then the Hubs & I do.

Tonight I got to pick my kids up from my parents and I was so excited to see their little face- my house is alive again. The quiet was wonderful- but I’m so glad it only lasted a short time.

 

No Good Deed…

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The Hubs and are I very lucky that, thanks to a great babysitter and family nearby, that we get to go out without kids at least once a month.  Typically these dates are very fluid- if we have to cancel our sitter due to any sort of emergency, it’s not a big deal. Very rarely do we have an engagement on a specific date that we really can’t miss.

This past Friday was one of those dates.  I had gotten the Hubs tickets to a show for Christmas and the long awaited day finally arrived. We were psyched- we had dinner planned with friends before hand, then the show.

That is why I wasn’t at all surprised when I checked my messages before leaving the gym at 6:30 am Friday to see the Hubs texted me to tell me the Bean threw up.  Of course she did.

Being the planner that I am, I had plans A, B & C formulated in my head before I got home 15 minutes later.  One way or the other, the Hubs was going to this show even if I couldn’t join him.  Thankfully the Bean was feeling fine by 11 am and my Mom, bless her, still offered to come up and babysit for us.  We had a great night- a night so great that it proved to me once again that I’m not 21 any more, nor can I act like it if I expect to get up and be a productive member of society the next day.

Unfortunately for my mom, she also paid for her kindness by spending all last night sick with a stomach bug. I guess it’s true- no good deed does go unpunished.

 

Tips for Surviving the Road & Disney World

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I forgot how much reentry into the real world take out of you!  I had to wake the kids up this morning (unheard of from Scorch), leave a sobbing kid in the arms of their teacher, deal with 500+ emails at work, do 8 loads of laundry, get our taxes signed and get the snacks together for the kid’s Leader Day at school tomorrow.  In short, I’m fried.  But I have been working on mental list of all the things I learned after living through a 2400+ plus mile road trip with my kids and going to Disney World for 3 days.  It’s not exactly riveting reading material, but I hope it helps someone!

The Road Trip

1) I hear about a lot of families who leave for long road trips at the kids bedtime and drive through the night while their kids sleep. Sounds great in theory, but that would never work for us.  First, the Hubs and I need our sleep and we’re miserable people without it.  Second, the Bean doesn’t sleep in the car.  She never has even as an infant- so trying to force her to as someone (*cough*TheHubs*cough*) tried on that first day was an epic failure. In fact, the only meltdown we had on the trip was when the Hubs wanted to drive further an hour past the kids bedtime instead of settling in at a hotel.
The Lesson:
know your kids schedule/ability and stick to that. It’ll make life more pleasant for everyone.

2) I stocked our car with all sorts of fun things for when we traveled.  New coloring books, markers, games, etc. Sadly, what worked best were the DVD players.  Yes- plural.  We have one overhead DVD player in the car and that’s perfect for 99% of the trips we take.  But when you’re logging 12 hour days in the car, it was much nicer to be able to give them their own DVD player (that we borrowed!) and headphones and let them zone out that way. We avoided a lot of arguing and tears that way.
The Lesson: never underestimate the power of technology.

3) The Hubs is the type of guy who likes to drive until he is either on the very last fume in the gas tank or until his bladder is going to burst.  Frequent stops aren’t in his DNA.  But with the kids we found ourselves stopping every 2-3 hours for a bathroom break. During those breaks we raced around the rest areas, played tag or did a quick kiddy bootcamp to work some of the crazies out.  We also made sure to stop for at least 1 sit down meal a day. Even if it was Denny’s, it was a welcome break from the car and all the crappy food we were consuming on the go.
The Lesson: stop and stop often, especially if your kids don’t nap anymore but are still young enough to scream the car down.

Braving Disney World

1) We don’t own a stroller anymore- in fact, I can’t tell you the last time we used one. The Bean may have sat in one all of a dozen times her whole life.  But when you’re in Disney, that doesn’t matter. Either bring your own stroller or pony up the money ($31 for a double stroller for a day) for one- it’ll be the best money you spend.  Disney is crazy busy with literally tens of thousands of people walking everywhere.  Many attractions are far away from each other and you’re hiking all over trying to see them all.  Having the kids strapped in not only kept my  kids safe, but it also made sure they weren’t exhausted, overtired crankpots 3 hours into the day.
The Lesson: the stroller is God at Disney.

 

2) When we first planned this trip to FL, going to Disney wasn’t on my agenda.  I was worried that the Bean was too young to really enjoy it and I didn’t want to spend all that money (hint: Disney World is expensive) on something she wouldn’t really enjoy.  I was right. We obviously ended up at Disney anyhow (thru the generosity of some amazing family members) and had an absolutely wonderful time, but the Bean was too young for a lot of things so we spent a fair amount of time people watching, walking around and just taking in the sights as opposed to riding on rides.  And that was fine- we had an amazing time!  But I am glad I went into this trip with my expectation set lower for the Bean so I wasn’t freaking out over money wasted or experiences missed. I didn’t want to be that Mom standing in line with a sobbing kid threatening them to have fun or else. (All that said, at 5, Scorch *loved* almost everything geared for his age!)
The Lesson: your kid can only handle what they can handle. Trying to force them to have fun or try something that terrifies them will not end well.

Guess the ride?

3) When we were at the Magic Kingdom, we bought lunch on our first day.  We got 2 adult meals (burger & fries), 1 hamburger kids meal and 1 PB&J kids meal. It cost us $53.  Disney lets you bring in food to the park, but we thought bringing in a cooler or snacks would be too difficult, so we didn’t.  Honestly, the food would have been better if we did and we would have saved a bundle.
The Lesson: plan ahead and bring in what you can easily carry. Your kids will most likely enjoy that food more then the $12 burger anyhow. 😉

4) We were lucky enough to have my parents with us our whole time in FL and while we were in Disney, the Hubs uncle and cousin joined us for some of the time.  A 6 – 2 adults to kids ratio sounds like over kill, but it was perfect! There was always someone who could watch the kids while the adults did a scarier ride and it allowed the Hubs and I to be able to enjoy this vacation a lot more.
The Lesson: travel in packs.

5) When we first got to the Magic Kingdom, our tour guide (The Hub’s uncle) ushered us to the back of the park to hit the Peter Pan ride. Why? It’s the most popular one in the Magic Kingdom.  If I took nothing else away from this trip, it’s 1) hit the most popular rides first (our wait time was 10 minutes- within 1 hours of opening, it was a 50 minute wait) and 2) use your fast pass!  Fast pass allows you to reserve your spot in a ride- you check in and are told what time to come back.  When you do, you’re usually on the ride within 5 minutes, totally bypassing the line. So worth it.
The Lesson: hit up the popular rides first and don’t forget to use the Fast Pass.

6) Out of all the things we did while at Disney World, the thing my kids liked the most was meeting the characters. We met Donald, Goofy, Pluto, Belle, Princess Aurora, Cinderella, Woody, Jessie, Micky, Minnie and a few others I can’t remember. Yes, it was a pain in the rear standing in line to meet them, but so so so worth it!  I bought the kids autograph books and special pens that they kept with them for just this purpose- those encounters were the highlight of the trips for my kids.  A little tip- when in the Magic Kingdom, go to the Town Square Theater- there you can stand in line to meet the princesses or to meet Micky & Minnie.  The meet and greet with Micky is called “Backstage at Mickey’s Magic Show”- so we didn’t have a clue we could actually meet The Mouse there.  Evidently no one else did either because we were in line less then 5 minute before the kids met him and Minnie- easily the shortest line of the day!
The Lesson: Get (or make) an autograph book and soak in the looks on your kids faces when they finally meet some of their favorites!

 

There endth the lessons. I think.  I may have more, but that’s all I can remember for now! After all that, the Hubs and I were talking how we can’t wait to do this again next year! 🙂

 

Home Again

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We’re back!  During the past 11 days we drove to FL and back, visited family along the way, spent some time at the beach, went to the Clearwater Aquarium and met Winter, spent a day at the Magic Kingdom, visited Disney Hollywood Studios, watched the kids dance in the Lion King production at Animal Kingdom and shopped at Downtown Disney.  We got sunburned, laughed a lot, ate way too much great food and made a whole lot of memories.

All in all, the trip was just about perfect!

Cinderella's Castle

If anyone cares to hear my thoughts about visiting Disney with a 3 year old and a 5 year old or how to survive a 1200 mile trip (one way!) in the car, let me know.

Disney Bound- Calling All Experts!

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We’re heading to Disney World this spring and I cannot wait! We’ll only be there for 2 full days this year as, frankly, I think the Bean is a bit young to do a big trip yet.  So I want to make this visit as fun and stress free as possible in order to whet the kids appetites for when we’re lucky enough to come back and stay  longer.

That said- since we only have 2 days, what should we do and see? Our current game plan is to spend one full day at the Magic Kingdom.  Now I need to figure out what we should do while we’re there? What are the must-do rides/attractions for 5 and 3 year olds?  The Bean isn’t into princesses, so I’m not stressing about Cinderella’s castle.

If we can’t fit it all in on Day 1, we can absolutely go back  to the Magic Kingdom again on Day 2.  But if we’ve had our fill, I’m trying to figure out where to spend our 2nd day.  Do we try Animal Kingdom? One of the splash parks? MGM?

It’s been a good 10 years since I’ve last been there (and I was a newly wed with no kids!), so I’ll take any suggestions and advice!

Sick Days

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One of the reasons I started keeping an online journal 9+ years ago and this blog 1.5 years ago was so I didn’t forget things. The good and the bad things- the things that make up our daily lives and that make my family tick. The way words were pronounced with my kids were really little, the love that swelled in my heart on a certain date, the times the kids cracked me up and, yes, even the times when I wondered why I thought having kids was a good idea.

Well, it turns out that recording the ups and down doesn’t mean I’m not able to push somethings right out of my mind.

Like how often little kids get sick their first year in school. Holy crow-we’re on the Bean’s 3rd illness in 4 weeks (stomach bug, ear infection/strep, stomach bug if you want to play at home). And no worries- that week that she wasn’t sick, Scorch was.  My mind immediately does what it does best -internally overreact- when I started to think of this string of illnesses until I looked back and realized that, yup, Scorch was sick this much too.  The good news is after his first year, Scorch has been pretty darn healthy, so I’m hoping that happens with the Bean.

In the meantime, if you need me, follow the scent of Lysol wipes- I’ll be the one scrubbing everything down.

 

 

Siblings

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I wasn’t sure if Scorch was going to have a sibling.  The long road we traveled on to have him was full of a lot of disappointment and heartbreak- I honestly wasn’t sure if I had the strength to go that way again.  Plus, Scorch was perfect. How could we improve on that? We had gotten everything we wanted in that one miracle baby- were we tempting fate to try to have another child?  So, we didn’t try.  We didn’t not try, either- but we didn’t actively set out to have another baby, the Bean just happen.

The minute I saw my two babies together I wondered why in the world I thought having two kids was a bad idea.

Now my two babies are 5 and 3 and I wonder a lot of things.

> How can two kids torment each other so much?

> How does the Bean know just what to say to rile Scorch up so quickly?

> How can two kids profess to hate each other one minute and be as thick as thieves the next?

> How does the Bean know just the right thing to say when Scorch is throwing a fit to make him laugh?

> How can Scorch be trying to whack the Bean one second and then agree to play “Daddy” when she wants to play house the next?

These children of mine, they are a mystery to me.  But I don’t ever, ever wonder why I had them.